It was Milan Kundera who warned young lovers to beware how they behaved in their first nights together. For the pattern they established in those initial hours would govern them ever after. The Czech novelist advised the beau, intoxicated with romance, to hesitate before bringing his belle breakfast in bed: every morning thereafter that he provided no such treat would count as a disappointment. Without even realising it, the lovers were drafting the "unwritten conventions" of their future relationship. Apparently filled with the spontaneity of love and desire, a newly joined man and woman were instead "like the most hard-nosed of lawyers" drawing up "the fine print" of the contract between them.
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